Abandonment brutally releases the heart with a proclamation from the mind. But since the heart is the realm where farewell to love takes place, incompleteness remains in eternal suspension. To discover you’re no longer wanted, does not sit well with the higher cognition that swore immutable allegiance and the exalted emotion that cared beyond deservingness. Such is the way of noble souls in the face of infamy.
Liberating Pathways
- Celebrate your capacity to feel pain when your heart is wounded. Sociopaths are incapable of experiencing the exalted emotions that bestow your nobleness and signal your trust has been befouled: compassion, empathy, admiration, gratitude, trust. Out of sight, out of mind is the creed of callousness.
- Do not try to solve your pain logically because emotional assaults transcend the limits of reason. Allow the exalted emotions to elevate disillusionment to a higher order of experience: From abandonment to commitment, from shame to honor, and from betrayal to loyalty.
- Do not rely on time to heal. Time is an affordance rather than a contributor to space. Healing begins when you forgive yourself for putting your heart in harms way.
- Rather than concluding that it is unwise to love again, resolve to love again wisely.
- Feel sorrow for yourself rather than sorry for yourself. Choose the path of the wounded hero to avoid victimhood.
- Celebrate that your unrequited love released you without inflicting further damage.
- Be around people who refuse to abandon you when you have been abandoned. Those who stay are the foundation to heal you from those who leave.
- Trust your nobleness to thrive in the face of infamy.
